Getting Let Go

How to Bounce Back from Getting Let Go

I’m not gonna lie to you. Getting fired sucks. A lot. It throws you for a loop and even if part of you is expecting it, it doesn’t make it hurt any less. You know how in movies and TV shows when something traumatic happens to a character they play loud ringing and their heart pounding? Well that’s pretty much exactly what was happening to me when I heard my now former bosses telling me not to come in on Monday. My mind went blank. I was speechless.

Opportunity Cost of Getting Let Go

I’m not writing this for your pity or for anything like that, but odds are, you or someone you know and love has been let go from a job at some point in their lives. I’m not a journalist, blogger, social media guru, or even really a writer so I have no idea how to do this, but I’ll give it a shot for the three and a half people that read this (LOVE YOU GUYS).  Anyway, I’m here to tell you that if this shitty thing happened to you, take it as an incredible opportunity. I wouldn’t have found this lovely website and maybe I would never have been driven to write anything at all for the interwebs, but here we are. What a time to be alive!!!

A little backstory: I quit my last job back in June after working a ton of late nights in an industry I cared little for, doing work I only found occasionally interesting.  Full disclosure: the work environment had become poisonous. My boss had to leave after a mental breakdown from overworking forced her into a hospital, and I needed to get a Xanax prescription after experiencing panic attacks.  I was so burnt out that I needed a break and time to figure out what I really wanted.  I ended up kind of coasting for a month, smoking weed everyday and just enjoying the summer.  I was applying to jobs (I’ve applied to over 500 on LinkedIn alone FUCK with me) a bunch, but not really motivated to do anything in the meantime.  Long story short, I ended up at a blah company doing blah assistant work for blah people, still self-medicating with da herb in the process.

The work was pretty mind-numbing, lots of clerical shit, travel booking, organizing, rinse and repeat.  It wasn’t very engaging and the fact that I was still smoking everyday made me somewhat more inattentive I think, leading to a few more careless errors than I would have made normally to my bosses’ chagrin.

Wake Up! (By Arcade Fire)

Just as the election was a wake up call of sorts for lefty loosey neolibtards such as myself, so too was getting fired. I knew I needed to get my act together and figure my shit out and I needed to do it now. I couldn’t wait like last time.  Everything in the back of my mind about stuff I wanted to change, learn and improve about myself was now at the fore. If I continued working at this job that, now that I think about it, was never right for me in the first place, none of this would have happened.

If you find yourself in a similar situation to me or even not, I want you to ask yourself what you really want.  What are you searching for? What have you always wanted to try, but felt you never had the time? How do you want to improve yourself? What do you want to work on? All these questions ran through my head probably that first night.  To my surprise, the answers came pretty easily.  I’ve struggled with getting my mind and body in sync and I wanted to get more technical/applicable skills I could put on my resume (side note: I made the incredibly smart decision of going to a school where I made my own major, making a job thaaaaat much more difficult to get ugh. Okay sorry sorry no more pity parade).  I started doing research on martial arts and graphic design classes the next day.

Find Your Dojo Grasshopper

In a few weeks’ time, I found a gym (Dojo? No one where I currently go calls it that but idk whatever) and a perfect design class to take at a reputable program.  I also made a lot of headway in finding freelance work and soon after I stumbled upon this blog for millenials! What a unique idea that no one’s ever tried before…wait a minute….FUCK (JK y’all this place is great thanks for having mee :DDD). I’m still struggling with that other thing I talked about before (it involves green stuff), but one day at a time, patience is a virtue, one battle at time, more clichés etc. yada yada.

It’s still only been so long, but I’m pretty happy with the progress I’ve made so far, especially compared to my last foray into unemployment and I’m really excited to see what the future holds for me.  I’m by no means in a rush to find something new, although sooner rather than later would be nice.

Last Paragraph. Sad!

Basically what I’m saying is that if this really shitty thing happens to you, take it as an opportunity for self-reflection, to contemplate how you done goofed you fuccboi, how you can work on yourself and what you really want out of the near and maybe even long term future.  In other words, think about how your life can and should be based af.  I know I did and the future’s looking as bright as ever.  Peace out.

-DMillz